Nobody’s Watching! Everyone is Smiling!

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As some of you know I am partial to a dance.  Since I changed my drinking habits, I dance differently; less of the 5am raving and more after work workouts.  I am always on the look out for dance based health and wellbeing activities.

 

So, last Wednesday I went along to the Museum of Happiness (absolutely amazing place, everyone has to check it out and go to one of their events) http://www.museumofhappiness.org/ to an event organised by Nobody’s Watching – Silent Disco.  https://www.nobodyswatching.co/

I got to the venue in Camden and as soon as I walked in I was greeted by our lovely host, Claudia, who showed me where to put my stuff, and really welcomed me in as I was slightly nervous. The other people attending were also warm and friendly it immediately put me at ease! I also got shown to the glitter corner where you can adorn yourself – obvs within 4 minutes of arriving I had glittered my face! Such a cool touch.

The room was filled with happy vibes and a happy aesthetic which made me feel uplifted.  The area where we would be dancing was gorgeous astro-turf and the room was nicely lit and at the right temperature.  There was a variety of different people which shows how accessible the event is.

We were given our headphones and shown how to use them – thankfully! The first part of the session to warm us up the host went through some dancing routines which actually made me laugh out loud (and everyone else).  We had to do a routine that involved flamenco style moves, then an old man wagging our finger, then as a young raver – to a really beautiful Spanish song.  This helped to loosen me up and to get rid of my inhibition – such a good way to break the ice.  We then had to do different moves like air guitar, brass band air trumpets, and slapping our thighs percussion as we all moved around the room.  It really helps to have the headphones on as it sort of feels a bit like protection – you’re in your bubble but in a room with other people in their bubble!

Then the main session started and we were dancing to European tunes as it was European Day! This type of music is the last thing I would listen to but honestly, it is nice to have a break from yourself (and what you like) sometimes! I especially enjoyed jumping up and down to No Limit by 2 Unlimited! The playlist was upbeat and interesting so your attention is held.  And for those tired moments where you need a little break? Well no problem, there is a ball pit with loads of cushions in a little room next to the dance floor!

I loved the event and the fact I felt childlike again.  Just letting go and being silly, jumping around and not giving one care about what you look like, is liberating.  If you are shy or have inhibitions I challenge you to go to one of these events because guaranteed you will come out of there smiling.  The combination of happy music, venue and lovely warm people is an uplifting winner.  I love the fact that there is no script, or  rules about what you have to do and it is all down to letting yourself be within your own limits.

I had gone in there feeling unwell but come out smiling from ear to ear – plus I did a really good workout.

This event would also be great for newly sober people to feel what it is like when dancing sober as I know many people have that hang up and used booze for Dutch courage.  I can’t wait to attend my next one and I hear there are some interesting venues coming up.  Also there are ways to become involved with the movement to organise your own parties with friends or work colleagues!

So yes, it is a huge thumbs up from me for a mid-week dose of uplifting happiness!

 

 

 

 

“Above All Else, Know Thyself”

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Socrates innit; dedicated his life to finding the truth.  Life lived in wonder, seeking wisdom from the unknown and all that malarkey.  I am 41 and still don’t know thyself – I still think about those people at school who knew at age 10 they wanted to be a vet, or an accountant, or fisherman…and became exactly that.

I reckon administrative jobs were created just for people who have no idea what they want to be in life.  So easy to sit at that computer and push the papers around, get the paycheck, pay your rent, save a bit (HA!), go on your holidays, do up your house, get that VW Golf etcetera.  It is hard to follow your dreams, it takes hard work and sacrifice and it can be a risk.  I respect people who have followed their dreams, honestly it’s a brave thing to do.

Remember at school when you would get to see a careers officer for half an hour once a year? They did that grid questionnaire thing to ascertain what you would be.  I remember the Career Officer had a massive, and I mean fucking huge, forehead and I could only think about that.  So in the end my quiz result came out that I could be a Care Assistant, Nurse, or Receptionist.  I was utterly inspired, not.  I actually went on to college to study a pre-Nursing diploma but packed it in when I had to look at an old mans arse grapes.   The way school sets you up to be conformist, ugh.  You work for twenty or so years, you get all those material things, you get married have kids then you think ‘what the fuck man’ and you wish you could just play outside with your mates and do the things you want to do, be creative and innocent!

Thing is I wanted to be Stunt Woman but on the Isle of Man those jobs were short and I was a little lazy bastard so the physical side of things wouldn’t have worked.  But that was my dream.  I am glad I didn’t pursue that dream though as obviously being Angelina Jolie’s body double would have been terrible…

Anyway I just left my  job and I have no idea what to do next. Is it too late to join Stunt School? *and lose about 5 stone

Why do I feel like I am starting a new life at the age of 41? This really is a mid life crisis but in a good way.  Not like when I had a semi- pathetic quarter life crisis which made me consider my drinking habits because I couldn’t handle hangovers anymore because ermm the constant parties and shots and MDMA were taking their toll.  I figured I would just have to stop drinking Sambuca shots…I was gutted.  I did however go to university because of that quarter life crisis.  I packed in my job and enrolled on a degree within a week of the start of the crisis and honestly it was the best thing I could have ever done.  So crisis is good, mostly.

*signs up to the circus*

Watch this space…

#philosophy #life #drinking #midlifecrisis

Women, Glorious Women

I went to a Salon Lecture at the BFI the other night in the Reuben Library hosted by Club des Femme.  Their manifesto below:

“We are a queer feminist collective. We curate film screenings and events. Our mission is to offer a freed up space for the re-examination of ideas through art.

In the age of the sound-bite, Club des Femmes is a much-needed open platform for more radical contextualisation and forward-looking future vision: a chance to look beyond the mainstream!”

http://www.clubdesfemmes.com

I had never heard of Club des Femme (website above if you are interested) and one of the things I like in my life is to discover and learn, constantly! I especially love being inspired by creative women who care about women and art.  This all made me think about inspiring women and of how we will be celebrating International Women’s Day on Wednesday.  I thought I would do a run down of my most inspiring women and of how they have influenced me.

Obviously I have to mention my Mum – she is everything.  She has overcome so much and been so strong, at times it astounds me.  Her passion for life and her spirit of adventure has influenced me massively.  I remember as a child she always told me “if you get knocked down, get straight back up again” and pretty much that’s a core value I have held dearly.  She is my best friend and I love her more than words can say.

My other personal influences have to be the female lecturers who inspired and enthralled me at University – Dr Kelly Boyd and Professor Lesley Stevenson who saw I had passion for history and art and helped me to get my  head around it all.  I remember always coming out of the lectures feeling excited about learning and about how education was changing me into a better person.  Education saved me.

In my younger years I seriously looked up to Ffyona Campbell and Ellen Macarthur – both incredible women who challenged themselves, breaking world records into the bargain.  I often find this funny that as a young lass I was influenced by these women for their physical feats because I was very much a non-physical person (lazy!).  I think their mental strength and the way they overcame fear and dangerous situations was something I wished at the time I had. Courage. I especially like Ffyona’s story as she was extremely vulnerable at times and her life has had real lows but she always fought back.  I felt like I was with her every step she took when I was reading her book “The Whole Story: A Walk Around the World” and I always wished I could maybe one day walk part of the world -although it is never too late!

When I watched the documentary of Ellen sailing solo around the world I felt such immense pride for her and complete awe that when she crossed the finish line I was crying, jumping up and down screaming! Honestly – amazing women!

This then leads me onto the literary women I am in awe of.  I loved Zadie Smith’s novel “White Teeth”; reading each line so slowly so that I could  lap up her delicious words.  Her writing is complex and beautiful and I instantly fell in love.  Her portrait of multi-cultural London, and later on with “NW” just takes me back to a time when I had first moved to London and I was so excited and everything was new to me. I read “NW” a few months after my Dad died and it was like a special treat for me to be lost in her words.  Smith has been named one of the most influential people in British culture and rightly so.  Here I also want to mention Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie who wrote “Half of a Yellow Sun” and “Americanah” – these are the only books I have read so far but they are both utterly stunning.  The way Adichie writes also makes me want to savour each word, they make it so easy to create the images in your head without overloading in detail.  I loved “Americanah” and would often find myself wryly laughing at the protagonists observations feeling like I was really in her head.

One of my other female influences in academia has to be Professor Sherry Turkle (MIT) who has written  huge content on the psychology of the digital age.  Her book “Alone Together” was a bible for me during some PhD research I was conducting on how we connect with images, identity, and with each other in the digital age.  Her earlier book “Life on the Screen: Identity in the Age of the Internet” is fascinating.  She is a leading voice in the area of technology and society.  Below I have linked a TED Talk she gave on the subject of how we are so connected but yet so alone.

Now I have to mention my art influences and as part of some research I was conducting in 2012  I wanted to look at women who actively subverted the normative codes of beauty and gender. My research took me to Claude Cahun (Lucy Schwob) a 19th Century photographer who had lived under Nazi occupation in Jersey.  Cahun had risked her life to question matters such as female sexuality, the possibility of a third gender, and had made political statements though her surrealist imagery.  Cahun challenged the gaze and mimicked the fascist rhetoric of the time, using her body, turning the camera onto herself.  She influenced a generation of women photographers to challenge the norm and to deconstruct beauty (especially self portraiture) in order to take away its power.  Below are some of her images – utterly fascinating!

 

I also have to nod then to my favourite photographer, Jo Spence

The first time I saw a Jo Spence image I felt very strange.  It was of a fat middle aged naked woman (her) and I didn’t quite know why I felt strange looking at it.  I loved the image but felt like I almost wasn’t allowed to because it wasn’t traditionally “beautiful”; but she looked so free and I felt almost jealous that she could feel that.  She looked powerful and strong in her skin. At that time I was struggling with my own body image; it was like she gave me a new way of thinking about my body. Spence was a feminist and socialist and used photography to comment on issues such as gender and the body.  Later on in her career she documented her battle with breast cancer, she died in 1992 from Leukaemia.  The images of her scarred breasts and of procedures confront a truth about the body and illness and considers how the female body is owned.  I love her unashamed,  “fuck you” to the world and I intend to be just as strong as her in my life time.

 

So that is my round up of amazing women.  Thank you to all the women out there who strive to push the boundaries.  Love to all.

 

#art #women #photography #health #sober #internationalwomensday

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Let it be…

Letting it be on the Grand Union Canal.

Today I walked past this and I feel it is a sign. Ive been recently mulching over things from the past in a quest to maybe straighten out my future. I went to see a Regression Therapist and was hypnotised to think about my life in areas that upset me.  It was interesting but I felt so bored at the end of the session; talking about the past again (after a few years of psychotherapy a decade ago) feels like giving it power again.

I decided that in order to move on and close things I need to let it be.

Not ignore or push away, but acknowledge and let it be.

#selfcare #healthy #therapy

 

 

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